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Alternative Break

Bay Pines Florida VA Hospital

26047051_1046281558845997_4529496149849528241_n.jpgThis year I went on my very first Alternative Break through Central. Needless to say, this trip was AMAZING. On this trip I experienced a week full friendship and growth, and I also gain more perspective of the healthcare system. During the time we served at the VA hospital we were broken into smaller groups that had separate tasks. Some of the tasks included escorting patients, organizing gifts and a Christmas dinner food drive, and helping out in the extended care facility.

Although completing the tasks we volunteered for made an impact, I felt like the largest impact came to the patients when we interacted with them.  I was able to thank many brave men and women for serving our country in one of the most sacrificial ways possible. During these interactions I heard stories of WWII and Vietnam, of love and tragedy, of injury and healing, of family and lost ones. It seemed that every time I would sit down to talk with a patient the minutes would turn into hours, and my perspective was broadened greatly.

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One of the most captivating  stories came from a gentleman who was receiving physical therapy for a knee replacement. He had served in the marines during the Vietnam War. During his tours he gave up four years of his life and still suffers from PTSD from the war time brutality. As I was thanking him for his service he started tearing up and shaking his head. He shared how strange it was that I was thanking him for his service in the war, because he faced such opposition when he returned from the war initially. He shared that he and his troop all had to take off and hide their uniforms before reaching American shores because they would be mobbed by people protesting the war. He explained how he was spat on in public because protestors recognized the military hair cut and boots, even without the uniform. Personally, I was blown away at this story. I have learned in my history classes of the protests of the Vietnam war, but hearing it from a personal perspective gave my previous knowledge much more depth. This patient  taught me, unknowingly, a lesson of a life time: Although I may have knowledge, others can teach me much more than I will ever be able to learn on my own, and thus service, collaboration, and perspective gaining are the cornerstones to a successful society.

 

 

Ultimately, this trip was filled with stories that left me both laughing, and tearing up. It was filled with learning, as a group and individually. I became more familiar with a the Veteran’s Affairs Health Care System, and what it takes to be a part of this type of facility. I left this trip with more perspective on the world around me, and a refreshment of my drive to become a Physical Therapist at a veteran care facility (with high hope that the facility will be Walter Reed).

Setbacks and Strides Forward

17800204_897396197067868_4582613284595348633_nLast year around this time I reflected on my journey of joining the CMU Running Club. I was nervous, and quite reluctant at first, but I ended falling in love with the sport all over again. Coming into the fall 2016 cross country season I was ready to meet up with my team and take on the sport in stride….but that did not go as intended. Last year training for the half marathon I became injured and didn’t stop to give my body a rest. Determined to finish the half marathon I kept running, pushing myself, and ultimately making my injury worse (typical of any strong willed runner). Starting off this season I had to go through a knee surgery that end with adverse complications. In total, I was readmitted to the hospital, developed blood clots in my leg and both lungs, underwent another surgery, had a device implanted by my heart, and racked up many hours of physical therapy. So what was a girl supposed to do? Keep going.

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Following all of the unforeseen events I was left exhausted, upset, and with broken spirits. Returning for the fall season was out of the question with fresh stitches and soon to be scars. Yet, that didn’t stop my teammates from being my team of supporters. I still went to social events, attended elections, and ultimately became the team’s #1 fan (as did they for me). Once I got clearance from the surgeons and physical therapists to lace up my running shoes I was determined to get back to practice…. yet fear kept me away from something I loved so much. Fear of re-injury, fear of lost progress, fear of disappointing myself. So I began secretly training on my own in attempt to hide my recovery process from my team, yet once a team ALWAYS a team. Before I knew it I was convinced to come back to the track. With a lot of vulnerability at practice I was back running painfully slow times… yet having a blast. My team supported me, encouraged me, and pushed me to get back in the groove. Who knew that a Register Student Organization (RSO) could mean so much to me? Moral of the story: You can’t do everything on you own, no matter how headstrong you are. Sometimes you’ll need someone to help you along the way, maybe even a small army at times, but there is no shame in leaning onto another to accomplish something so much greater than yourself.

17855148_10155239497714612_6210234171575669181_oSo where am I now? After a lot of laughs, sweat, ice packs, and memories I was pushed by my teammates to sign up for the NIRCA National meet. I once again slipped into the maroon jersey with apprehension. I proudly wore Central Michigan University’s flying “C” across my chest. I laced up my spikes with reoccurring fear from the beginning of the season and competed like I ever thought I would again. I ended the meet by running a semi-decent time in the 1500m and earned an All-American title in the high jump. My team couldn’t be more proud to bring a few All-American titles home and I couldn’t be more satisfied with the abundance of  joy this team has brought into my life. FIRE UP CHIPS!

Pre-Physical Therapy Club

14718659_790285317778957_538416178303401745_nThis year I was honored to hold an Executive Board position as the Vice President of the Pre-Physical Therapy club. In this position I had the privilege to contact Doctoral programs around the state of Michigan, and sometimes nationally, to connect our 200+ members with Physical Therapy representatives. This year the club made visits to Wayne State University, Oakland University, Grand Valley State University, Central Michigan University, and University of Michigan:Flint. In each of these settings the students learned what requirements the school held to enter the application process of their Doctorate of Physical Therapy (DPT) program. In addition, I coordinated opportunities for the club members to visit each campus to help their decision making process before they applied. Overall, my main focus in the position of Vice President was the success of each member.

15349789_824980007642821_3762660236289082075_nSince I joined this club my first year of college I’ve watched it evolve and grow. Each year the club members and E-board bond further, which builds the success of not only the club, but each member individually. Because of this we have watched many of our members apply and receive acceptance letters from prestigious programs across the country. I too strive to be a part of this club’s success story as I enter the application pool this year. But ultimately, my hope is that as I step down from my E-board position in a few weeks and train the next Vice President, the club only continues to grow in numbers, bonds, connections, and successful futures.

{Click here to read about my service as the E-Board Volunteer Coordinator}

Leader Advancement Scholars in Detroit

LEAD Team:

At the beginning of this year I decided that I wanted to bond with the underclass men of the Leadership Advancement Scholarship program because I understand the importance of mentorship. I was fortunate enough to have people and opportunities to shape and mentor me during my first year of college, and I thought serving on the trip that jumpstarted it all would be a great place to start! {Click here to read about my experience on this trip in 2015}16807561_1577450168937090_2848794480160348484_n

First things first: FACILITATION

This trip was mainly focused around the Jalen Rose Leadership Academy(JRLA). We met with students enrolled in their leadership courses of their high school and taught them how to facilitate different leadership activities. We discussed community standards, what it takes to be a leader, and the different types of leadership styles that were used. Through this my role was to use the facilitation skills I’ve learned over my college years to teach the LAS freshman how to facilitate. The LASers then took their new skills to the JRLA high schoolers and taught them. Our goal was to create a living and learning community, which was exactly what happened.


Second step: Serviceweb-banner-940x198The next day the 45+ LAS students the LEAD team and I were in charge of woke up ready
to serve! We worked with CASS community in different facets of service. Some people worked on recycling, some worked with the soup kitchen, and some worked on making products out of recycled material to sell to the community. We spent a couple of long and laborious hours with this organization and really got to know the community members. We learned that each of the employees were once part of the homeless population of Detroit and all of their stories merged together when they joined CASS community. This organization gave them job, education, and opportunities to give back to the community they came from. Overall, the students in my facilitation group fell in love with the service, mission, and people of CASS.

Third…. was a little bit of fun!

As the LEAD team coordinators we made sure the LAS students had a little fun along with their hard work. We planned a trip to Quicken Loans, where we toured around the facility and were informed of their forward thinking business outlooks. Whether those outlooks included dog-friendly workplaces, basketball hoops, slushy machines, or even colorful paint we learned that the workplace can be a place of fun that cultivates creativity. By the end of the visit we had multiple people scheduling interviews for summer internships with the company. Lastly we were off to the Detroit Institute of Art (DIA). This trip was purely for fun and the LAS students loved spending time with their cohort learning about the importance of art and the culture that surrounds it.

So what?

During this trip all I wanted to do was to be a mentor to the underclassman LASers. Did I accomplish this goal? YES, and so much more. I connected with the students in ways that I could have never imagined, but I also learned so much from them. Their different passions showed through as we served along side of each other and I truly felt like these people were the leaders of today, the ones who were going to change the world in ways no one could have ever imagined. So, yes I was a mentor, a leader, a member of the LEAD team…. but ultimately I was a friend, fellow server, and a step toward a brighter future for Detroit.

On the Run…again

CMU’s Running Club

12644763_683045918464895_7740672703324977092_nSeven years is a long time…. a little over 1/3rd of my life to be more precise. Considering 1/3rd consisted of me learning the basic functions of being a human{eating, speaking, walking etc.} and  another 1/3rd learning how this thing called life worked {red means stop, an hour is 60 minutes, poison ivy makes you itchy etc.}, I’d say the last 1/3rd has been extremely significant. If you know anything about me, its that I spent those 7 years running competitively and I couldn’t be imagine my life any other way. When I came to college I hung up my running shoes, determined to close that chapter and find a new passion that could impact the world. Yet, I’ve found out that, ‘once a runner, always a runner.’ Although I stayed away from the sport for almost two years I found my old running shoes and I’m back at it…again.

12644763_683043515131802_5560265670403703059_nRunning: The Sequel… After I graduated high school I never seriously considered returning to the sport where my passion laid. I used the excuses that I was “too old” or “too busy” or “exploring other passions” in order to avoid running competitively again. To be honest, I was antsy and ready to run something everyday since my last race, but I suppressed it because I wanted a brand new beginning when I came to college. BUT, here I am as a second semester sophomore with a maroon and gold jersey, new running shoes, and a team that has my back.

How in the world did I end up here???After some coercion for the last three semesters from friends on the running club, I decided to join. I was just going to test the waters to see if it was something that I might possibly be interested in and from the first practice I was hooked. Before I knew it I was signing up to run a half marathon at the NIRCA Nationals in Indiana. So much for finding a new passion!

12801236_670919496382207_1946917697352946536_nOld passions die hard for a reason… That reason is simple, my passion for running is true and I’m not done with it yet. Although it seemed as if joining this Registered Student Organization (RSO) was a step backwards in my new journey though college, it was quite the opposite. Joining this team has amplified and added value to my nights at CMU. I get to spend  2 hours with some of my closest friends, stay physically active AND do something I love! All of these are wins to me and I can’t believe that it took me this long to figure it out. Through running I’ve had the opportunity to touch many people’s lives by building meaningful relationships and establishing a strong work ethic. I honestly believe that I’ve grown just as much as a person in a pair of running shoes as I have in the classroom, and that for me reveals the meaning of my passion.

The Tides have Turned….

Me? A Mentor?

12009705_613096925497798_6057021804446807406_nAs a Leader Advancement Scholar at Central Michigan University, I’ve had the opportunity to be accepted into a unique and complex group of individuals that soon became my family. I was welcomed by my very own mentor, Becky DalSanto, and she was welcomed by her’s, Dakota Hard…. and so on and  so forth. This year, as a sophomore, it was finally time for me to accept someone new into the family. This someone new just so happened to be my bundle of joy, Kylie Zellner.

Eagle Village: Round Two!

As an incoming freshman  I spent the weekend at Eagle Village with my Mentor and now I had the chance to go again with Kylie! {Click here to see her take of the experience} I’d have to say, the trip was a giant event foreshadowing the rest of the year. We experienced a lot of laughs, challenges and overall bonding. We entered the camp as complete strangers and left as family, and as the year progresses I couldn’t have asked for a better mentee.

Thats just how we role…

12002755_10153256634709075_2455185739847996000_nGoing into this experience I hoped to have a relationship with Kylie that I’ve seen past mentor/mentee pairs have. That is, best friends that do everything together and seem to be a match meant to be by the universe. However, Kylie and I don’t quite have that type of relationship, and I wouldn’t want it any other way. Instead, I’d describe our bond as unfaltering and independent, which matches both of our personalities. Kylie and I are able to go extended periods of time apart from each other, yet we know that we have each other’s backs. If she where to ever have a problem or a question, I’d be the first one to through myself in the way to help her sort it out. Through the tough and scary things, the happy and exciting moments, and the everyday ups and downs our relationship will be firm, enduring and unfaltering without having to spend every waking moment together. Thats just how we role…

So what…

Throughout this experience I’ve loved my role as a mentor and each time that I see Kylie the excitement is still boundless. Whether she realizes it or not, I feel extremely proud to not only have I gained an amazing friend , but also a sister that I get the privilege of watching grow into who she really is meant to be. Each time I hear from her and see her around I have this unending joy as I see her personality and confidence evolve. As she continues to push herself academically, try new things, and take on more predominant leadership roles around campus and beyond I will never stop being a proud mentor.

-McKenna Mathis…finally a sister

 

YoungLives

Young Life meets Teen Moms: YoungLives Addition

The first three weeks I served at Timber Wolf Lake approximately 1,500 high school students came to camp to have the best week of their lives and to hear about Jesus. The third week our Young Life camp was shaken up to serve some babies in addition to the teens, in a program called YoungLives. YoungLives gives teen moms ages 12-20 yrs. the opportunity to come to camp and experience the fun, messages, and growth that other teenagers have while giving them a break from parenthood. In essence, the teens get to become teens again while daycare providers come in to take care of their children for them

IMG_4171Just like any other week at Timber Wolf, the campers had the best week of their life, I did my part, and bonded with the campers. Yet this week was by far my favorite one because I had the opportunity to experience something completely new AND adorable babies were everywhere I turned! Although this week had many of its own challenges and adjustments, it turned out to be even more impactful than I ever thought.

As soon as the mothers arrived, it was time to remind them they were teenagers, just like us. They had the chance to experience the fun and excitement that YoungLife camps provide even if they were mothers.  They did all the daily activities that campers in the prior weeks did, and I was surprised at the result. I saw teen mothers sink back into their roles of just teens. It was strange, but the realization hit me that most of these mothers were younger than me. I had been subconsciously holding them to a higher standard than normal campers because they had one or more children of their own. Once that barrier broke from my mind my eyes and heart were open to treat them as such, my peers.

We could talk about the latest music, our celebrity crushes, make-up tricks, and even our favorite memories of high school. It was as simple as that: teens moms are still, at the root, teens and would love to be treated as such. This moment was defining and it taught me how to interact in challenging situations where I felt uncomfortable at first.

The moms themselves bonded and grew together by listening to each other’s stories and sharing some of the most difficult times they’ve every experienced. I was luck enough to be a part of that. I was honored to show them that their lives mattered despite the shame they received from the outside world. I was happy serve them for a week and see the both sides of motherhood and teen-hood converge, and respect them more than words could ever describe.

“Tying You Closer Than Most”

It’s the People You Meet

Memories fade, gifts wither, and emotions settle in the shuffle of everyday life.  Luckily, every once in a great while certain experiences and people can outlast this natural and monotonous cycle. Somehow, I was able to find this type of connection not just once, but multiple times over the past year in the ever shifting waters of the world. One of the most striking encounters has shone itself at Timber Wolf Lake when I had to say goodbye to my Summer Staff crew that were at my side (literally always there) for every second of the whole month of July.

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These people in the video are not just my Summer Staff co-workers, they are my family. They gave me the gift of more- more laughs, more encouragement, more joy and more memories than I ever thought possible. I was lucky enough to learn a little something from each of them to take back home with me and cannot help but smile when I think back on the crazy conversations and events of the month. The people that I served with made the month exciting, fun, and worth wild. We lifted each other up when we were down-emotional, spiritually, and even physically every once in awhile. We were always there to lend a helping hand for eachother, whether that was lifting something heavy, taking over someones job to give them a break, or to just be a travel buddy so no one was ever alone. In all actuality, it was the people I served with that got me through the assignment and will be there to get me through the hardships of life. No matter where I go they will always be there for me, partially because everyone seemed to be from a different state, but mostly because we love each other.

Although I had time to get to know everyone personally over the last month, I seemed to instantly bond with a few people: Liz (my bunkmate), Christian (my obstacle course buddy), Jenny (my Timber Karts partner), Nick (late night, life talks sidekick) and Heather (my partner in crime). In a complete stroke of fate Heather happened to fly to Timber Wolf Lake all the way from California, to serve along side of me and even better, love along side of me.

IMG_3941At this point Miss California and Miss Michigan collided with enough force to fuse an unbreakable bond. We became our own masters of mischief, adventure, life talks, and the even the local mermaids of the lake. I have never been able to so easily and completely open-up to a person so quickly before, let alone a complete stranger. Sure, she wasn’t the tan blonde chick with beach waved hair and surfer bracelets that I was expecting, I found her to be much much more than any of that. Heather may have been the only one to fully understand my thoughts while also helping me process them. We could talk for hours or sit in silence with ease because something between us just ‘clicked.’ IMG_3991

At the end of camp Heather gave me a matching ankel bracelet to say that she was, “tying me closer than most.” Every day I look down to see that bracelet and I can’t help but chuckle since it is a ever present reminder that I will see my adventure buddy again soon.

“There are places you leave and places that never leave you”

“When you meet someone you never think of how they will impact your life but when you look back, you realized that they changed your life.”