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Its Complicated

PHL118L: Moral Problems

Many Christians stray away from the topic of philosophy because it typically challenges many of the beliefs in their faith. For me, as a Christian, I actually enjoyed this challenge and if anything, it verified and strengthened the beliefs that I have. Of course, when I first entered the class I thought my professor was completely insane because he was so eccentric, but I soon found out he was just a mad genius!

41JB3XtYqDL._SX329_BO1,204,203,200_Everyone is Wrong… Many people who take this course struggle to understand that everyone is wrong about something in someone else’s eyes. For that reason, there will never be a complete right answer to a moral dilemma. Although this can be extremely frustrating and down right annoying at times, approaches like the Divine Command Theory, Utilitarianism, and a couple of others allowed me to understand why no one can every be completely right about a moral dilemma. Once I understood this, it was game on!

What this course gave me…New perspectives. Along with challenging my beliefs, I had the opportunity to see why people believed different ways on certain issues. This course gave me an opportunity to maturely and civilly express and argue for my prespectives on certain moral issues while still safely protected by the four walls of the class room. This form of training will in hope give me the confidence and reasoning that I will need in order to work with people that have a very different viewpoint that myself.

As a leader…I believe that having a general understanding of the many different moral views of people made me into a better person.  I can better relate to my followers, friends and family on a variety of topics and I have learned a process to approach situations that can be quite controversial. With these skills, I plan to better approach situation of all kind in order to create better goal accomplishment among my of followers.

Public Speaking…Ekk!

COM461L: Communication in Leadership

71GKNBQSPCLStick me on a podium in front of a crowd of any size and three things will happen:  I’ll get red in the face, my heart will race and I’ll typically start sweating. As anyone can probably guess, public speaking is not my strong suit but I surely am working on it! I was extremely apprehensive coming into this course since it was such a high level communication class and many of the people who are in the course are communication majors. This combination really struck me with fear when we entered the first class and she announced we’d be giving speeches on Thursday, which was only TWO DAYS AWAY. I went into panic mode to say the least.

Two days later…I successfully stood up {with shaky knees and sweaty palms} in front of 40 students and told a story of how I epically failed as a leader one year prior. I received lots of laughs, an applause at the end, and a decent grade for my efforts. To me that was a success and also a relief that I was finished with that embarrassment! That cycle is what I feared the rest of the class would be structured like all semester, but to my pleasant surprise it wasn’t!

41tHOojd47L._SX376_BO1,204,203,200_What this class was really about…Communication and leadership. Although it was the title of the class, I still was surprised when all of our discussions revolved around the theories, methods, and experiments conducted on effective leadership with communication. Over the years as I have led different organizations and become more involved in the community, I have learned that certain leadership methods and processes work better. It has been a process of trial and error  and this class taught me all of the background knowledge to the tactics that I’ve been using all along. I find this extremely helpful since I still believe that this is room for improvement in my leadership abilities. Now that I understand the theories it is easier for me to implement them successfully.

Where I am now… I cannot say that this class has taught me everything I will ever need to know in regards to communication and leadership. To be honest, I’m still slightly nervous when a public speaking opportunity comes around, yet I have seen a great deal of improvement. I’ve learned different ways to project and use body language to relay confidence while speaking to others. I have also learned how to better manage small groups to increase team productivity or progress to the goal. Among those these things and many more that I’m continuing to learn this semester, I’d have to say my leadership abilities are growing and being molded every class period.

 

YoungLives

Young Life meets Teen Moms: YoungLives Addition

The first three weeks I served at Timber Wolf Lake approximately 1,500 high school students came to camp to have the best week of their lives and to hear about Jesus. The third week our Young Life camp was shaken up to serve some babies in addition to the teens, in a program called YoungLives. YoungLives gives teen moms ages 12-20 yrs. the opportunity to come to camp and experience the fun, messages, and growth that other teenagers have while giving them a break from parenthood. In essence, the teens get to become teens again while daycare providers come in to take care of their children for them

IMG_4171Just like any other week at Timber Wolf, the campers had the best week of their life, I did my part, and bonded with the campers. Yet this week was by far my favorite one because I had the opportunity to experience something completely new AND adorable babies were everywhere I turned! Although this week had many of its own challenges and adjustments, it turned out to be even more impactful than I ever thought.

As soon as the mothers arrived, it was time to remind them they were teenagers, just like us. They had the chance to experience the fun and excitement that YoungLife camps provide even if they were mothers.  They did all the daily activities that campers in the prior weeks did, and I was surprised at the result. I saw teen mothers sink back into their roles of just teens. It was strange, but the realization hit me that most of these mothers were younger than me. I had been subconsciously holding them to a higher standard than normal campers because they had one or more children of their own. Once that barrier broke from my mind my eyes and heart were open to treat them as such, my peers.

We could talk about the latest music, our celebrity crushes, make-up tricks, and even our favorite memories of high school. It was as simple as that: teens moms are still, at the root, teens and would love to be treated as such. This moment was defining and it taught me how to interact in challenging situations where I felt uncomfortable at first.

The moms themselves bonded and grew together by listening to each other’s stories and sharing some of the most difficult times they’ve every experienced. I was luck enough to be a part of that. I was honored to show them that their lives mattered despite the shame they received from the outside world. I was happy serve them for a week and see the both sides of motherhood and teen-hood converge, and respect them more than words could ever describe.

A Year in Review

Thats a Wrap!

As I have emphasized may times throughout the creation and execution of this blog, I had absolutely no clue what I was doing most of my freshman year at Central Michigan University. College was a whole new experience for me and my family, and quite honestly I’m still figuring new things out every single day. But, I find this continual circle the most beautiful part of college. This is my dream, and I decide where is goes from here. As the new year of 2015 rang in I wrote a post called “Being the Me Today That I Want to be Tomorrow.” Now that I’m finishing up my first year of college, I think it is imperative to start reflecting on what has happened, how I have grown, and where I’m setting out to go from here. I started out this semester with these four questions and this is the progress that I have been making so far:

  • IMG_3685What do I really want in 2015? My answer was so broad, which left me a lot of wiggle room. All I wanted through the next 16 week semester, and the rest of the year was to take everyday and treat it as an opportunity. So far, I’m learning how to do this better every single day. I have met people I never would have the courage to talk to before. I have accepted more leadership positions and became more involved in different organizations. Every day I have can reflect on one thing or another that I did that could have been a missed opportunity otherwise. One major example of this (which happens to be very similar to that of last time) was dressing up in a funky costume to support breast cancer in the Relay for Life. Luckily I had my partner in crime, Meredith, with me once again and was able to raise money and spread awareness about this disease. I guess fun publicly embarrassing ourselves in funny costumes are just our thing!
  • What will you share in 2015? 
  1.      So far I have been effectively fulfilling this! As a Campus Ambassador I’m continually sharing everything that I know about CMU to high school students. Its very gratifying to hear all of the student and parents say that I have helped them make a very informed choice about the future.
  2.      Another sharing aspect that I have recently implanted in my life is taking a role as a Leadership Safari Guide. Through this program I will be devoting a few weeks of my time to help incoming Chippewa’s get acquainted with campus, find friends, and most importantly grow into their true selves. I can’t wait to make bonds with my Safari participants!!
  3. While leading Safari, I will be lucky enough to be an official mentor to Kylie Zellner. During this time I can challenge, teach, and help Kylie with anything she needs. I can’t wait to share all of the things that I have experienced over the last year with her( For more information, visit Mentor Workshop).
  4. IMG_3637Service! This has been a big part of the spring 2015 semester for me. I frequently serve my time at His House church and other volunteering events around the campus and in the community. I continue to spend time at the Humane Animal Treatment Society (click here for more information) and have been on a service trip to Detroit (for more info, click here).    
  5.      As I have posted about previously, I have recently accepted the position of Volunteer Chair on the Executive Board for the Pre- Physical Therapy club here at Central. This Register Student Organization helps students of all ages get a head start in the very competitive field of physical therapy(visit Executive Board Expectations for more information) . Hopefully (since I will begin my position in a few short days) that I’ll be able to start reaching many more students.
  6.      Further than reaching students, I also reached refugee children all the way across the country. Over spring break I had the opportunity to go on a mission trip where I spent a whole week serving the Lord and the community. (For more information a new blog post about it will be coming soon.
  7.      Over the summer, I will be spending a month completely secluded from friends and family to work at TimberWolf Lake, a christian summer camp for middle and higschool students to learn about Jesus. Although I won’t be paid for my time at this camp, I will be earning so much more. I’ll be able to grow in my faith while also sharing my experience and what I know with kids that are just finding their way in life. This is by far one of the biggest challenges I expect to put myself in this summer, but I think that it will be more than worth it!
  • IMG_3263What do I really need in 2015? At the beginning of this semester I decided that I needed to make more connection outside of my immediate friend group at CMU. I have fulfilled this part of my new semester resolution more than another. After my week spent on mission with 15 other strangers from my church, I have gained so many important people in my life. Strictly knowing just these 15 people lead to gaining connections to so many more people. I’ve met people every where from engineers, to politicians, to athletic trainers and so many more in between. I know people in the acapella groups, on the football team, and even people that are on the Program Board at CMU. I couldn’t imagine this semester without all of the individuals that I have met, and continue to meet every day.
  • What will I succeed in 2015? Earlier, I set the goal to learn and lead simultaneously. I think that I have definitely refined this skill after a full year at CMU. Balancing my grades and service has been difficult, but I think I have built a firm foundation on how to do this. My goal for the upcoming year is to keep building on this skill so that I can optimize my future and what I have to offer the future students at Central Michigan University.

THATS A WRAP! This year has grown me exponentially as a leader, student, and person. With this progress and the much more that I intend to make, I can only hope that I can make a difference everyday. For now, this is goodbye CMU, and hello to summer where I have more opportunities that are before me. No longer a clueless freshman, but a excited sophomore! ~McKenna Mathis

LEAD Team

Honoring our Alumni

10649964_10152488009644075_2480773191790971893_nAs part of my Leadership Advancement protocol I am required to join a LEAD team on campus. The team that I decided to sign up for happened to be a new committee for an existing event, the alumni breakfast. As a member of the team we planed the breakfast and then volunteered to help run the event. The breakfast was the morning of homecoming and took place inside the Leadership Institute where our committee set up a table. Our main job was to talk to the past graduates of Central Michigan University and welcome them back to their home. Throughout the weeks of planning I had an expectation that the room would be filled with elderly people who would not feel like sharing their stories with a common freshman. I sure was wrong! I meet so many people, some of which were Leadership Advancement Scholars from the past and even a few people that lived in the same residence hall that I currently do. Over a cup of coffee and some donuts I got a good idea of just how much CMU has changed and developed over the years. Class rooms were built, resident halls were remodeled, curriculum was updated, and technology was advanced. Yet there was one thing that was a common thread through each person’s story, there had always been a friend, professor, or staff member to help them along the way.

One story, that came from my high school track coach had really stuck with me. She was an amazingly talented and hardworking student-athelte when she attend Central Michigan University. She went to all of her classes during the day and the worked through hard and long track practices in the evenings. When all the other athletes left at the end of practice Julie Ravary would stay  to put extra work into her field events. By the time she left the track she would have to sprint to the dinning hall in hopes that she made it there before it closed. One of the cafeteria workers noticed this reoccurring event and told Julie to come around to the back of the cafeteria and knock next time she missed dinner. When she did the cafeteria worker would make her a special plate of food, set out a stool at the counter, and let Julie eat while she cleaned the kitchen. That is the Central Michigan difference.

Now What? Over this experience and all the different stories, I realized that Central is and always has been a caring campus. The staff and professors will do anything they can to help a student succeed. Knowing this I want to be more of a part of the Central difference by continuing the traditions of a warming community. I learned that a little extra effort can go a long way when I put others first, and I could apply that attitude to any future leadership endeavors.  I’m thankful to be a Chippewa and one day a proud alumni.CMUAlumLogo

-A future CMU alumni, McKenna Mathis

Alpha Leadership Experience

Becoming an Alpha

“A leader is one who knows the way, goes the way, and shows the way.” ~John C. Maxwell

Pat and Libby

Pat and Libby!

If you think about, being a leader is no different than a wolf and its pack. You protect the group from danger, work through trials together, stick together, and become family. Its true, every pack needs an alpha and every group needs a leader. During Alpha Lead I was assigned to a group of ten people, most of who I didn’t know and led through this experience by Pat and Libby. Every Thursday night we came together to work through tasks and learning criteria.

The first thing we did was learn what type of leader each of us were. We did this by taking a test were we had to divide points over a spectrum of statements like, ‘Generate excitement’ or ‘Act decisively’. After adding all the results and correlating it to styles, I found out that I’m a Compassionate Leader. I scored way above the bench mark of average compassionate leader, so I knew that I truly was the commiserative piece of the group. What exactly does that mean? I am low spectrum of assertiveness and high on the spectrum of expressiveness. I tend to bring harmony to a team by reassurance through difficulties, listening to others feelings, and in general provide support for others. Through this process I also learned common downfalls to a Compassionate Leader, which are, avoiding constructive conflict and providing too much comfort and unwillingness to change. With those two things in consideration I found that I thrived at the challenges that needed patients, tact, and cohesion among the group. Now that I knew what kind of leader I was, the way that I solved problems, led, and created a family atmosphere all made sense. Luckily, I could now use this to my teams advantage.

Throughout the next couple of weeks our team came together and worked on physical and mental tasks to not only strengthen our leadership style, but also to stretch us to use other styles. One task revolved around inventing, another around balance, one around strategy, and another around communication. The task involving communication was by far my favorite. My team was combined with 4 other teams and we had to develop a language meanwhile, the other 5 teams in a different room had their own language. Slowly we had to begin playing a game, and people from each room were swapped into the other room. When they tried to communicate it was almost impossible and and usually left both sides confused, frustrated, and somewhat offended. This lesson showed us how important communication is and how to act in a situation of miscommunication.

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Through the trials and tests provided by this experience I learned how to embrace my Compassionate Leadership style and to step out of my comfort zone to begin to acquire skills in other styles of leadership. I became a more well rounded individual, made so many new friends, and had a great deal of fun to go with it. I am compassionate. I am harmonic. I am a leader. I am an alpha.

~An Alpha, McKenna Mathis

Meeting President Ross

A Presidential Parley

President RossThe Central Michigan University difference is hard to explain to a person that doesn’t attend this wonderful institution, but there are plenty of examples of it every day around campus. One perfect example of this is when I had the opportunity to meet with the actual president of CMU. President Ross took time out of his day to meet the new Leadership Advancement Scholar cohort, and I am so thankful to be one of those 44 students to meet him. At most colleges a student would be lucky to be in the same room as the president of the university, let alone actually meeting him.

I started developing a real connection with Ross when he began telling us about his childhood, his upbringing, and his journey along the way to his success. Little did I know that the wisdom filled man in a snappy suit in front of me grew up on a farm in Missouri. He had many siblings and his family was so poor. President Ross was the underdog in life, yet he made it to the top, at one of the greatest institution in the country. Exactly how President Ross made it was one of the most inspiring stories of all. He worked small end jobs, went to college whenever possible, and kept an optimistic outlook on life. President Ross ended up at Michigan State University to study accounting and was success. He was hired at Central, and began slowly working is way up the ladder until he obtained presidential status. The story in and of itself was amazing to hear, but the lessons that Ross drew from it and passed on to us made the biggest impact of all. He stressed the fact that we CAN really do anything that we dream of if we are willing to work out tails off for it. President Ross also emphasized the fact that we need seize every opportunity presented to us because some of the most wonderful things in life come from surprises.

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President Ross takes time to virtually meet with a student that could not attend the meeting.

In the second portion of meeting President Ross we were allowed to ask him questions. He made a personal connection with each one of us that asked a question since he required us to tell him our major, where we were from, and of course, our names. Most of the questions revolved around what we could do to better help lead or better CMU entirely. President Ross gave some great advice to never give up, keep trying to better yourself, make connections along the way, and have fun.

All in all it was amazing to have a person of such high status that wanted to come and meet a group of freshmen. From the experience I learned that dreaming big is the best thing that you can do for yourself, always take ahold of opportunities that present themselves, take time to truly meet people along the way, and never give up, even in the worst of times.

~McKenna Mathis

Making Connections

Connections Conference

On another one of my leadership outings, provided by the Leadership Institute, we went to Traverse City. This conference was not limited to just Leadership Advancement Scholars, so I was able to make amazing friendships with people all across CMU’s campus. Going into this conference I didn’t really know what to expect. All that I did know was the amazing reviews from staff and also that Jesi Parker planned the outing. These two things gave me great expectations and hopes for the conferences success. Little did I know just how great this whole experience was going to be and how many surprises were about to come my way.

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The fabulous late bus crew at the Connections Conference!

A slight bum in plans started off the expedition on a stressful note since the bus arrived approximately three hours late. During those three hours the twenty of student got pretty close, which was the first surprise. I did realize that I knew all of the people, but only then did I realize that I knew very little about them. Waiting in the Leadership Institutes lobby I really had time to bond with some of the people that I hadn’t had the chance to get to know very well. I found that Paige loved super-heroes like me, Sam was a co-fan of Taylor Swift, and that Sarah and I seemed to share a brain! When the bus finally arrived we boarded it, but the fun didn’t stop there. Watching “The Princess Diaries” and eating candy set the tone for the rest of the trip.

When we did finally arrive and got thrown into our committees, the real experience began. The first session that I chose was Beyond the Degrees where we discussed Stanley Milgram’s “Six Degrees of Separation” theory. We learned by this theory that everyone in the entire world was connected by six people. Every…all over the world… connected. Talk about mind blowing! Derived from that lesson we learned how to make more meaningful and connecting relationships with people that we meet everyday. This is where surprise number two comes into play. As a section of session we began meeting everyone around the room, and I actually found that a person there was related to my high school principle. This happened to be a reacquiring theme through out the conference, and met so many people who were related to people I knew, or were acquaintances of my friends.

All the connections made starting with some fuzzy ears!

Friendships start with fuzzy ears!

The rest of the day I met more people, went to more session including The Dating Game: Job Edition, and Killing Creativity, and then got some free time after dinner. Cue surprise number three. During this time we found out that the front desk gave everyone free wolf ears, so OF COURSE we couldn’t resist. In all honesty, something small like that began many conversations and ended up giving us the opportunity to meet people and create connections. As the fun dimmed with the light, we all decided to get a good night sleep and get back at it in the morning.

The last educational session I went to was called 22.1, which turned out to be my absolute favorite session of all. The main idea of this lesson was to show us that every moment counts since the average human only gets 22.1 billion heart beats in their life. During this time the group did a lot of self reelecting and we each developed a one sentence mission statement as to our goal of leadership. The mission statement that I developed was, “Be the Silver Lining.” For those that are unfamiliar with what that means, its a statement to show others that out of every hardship something good can come and to find the positive in every situation. When I created this statement I realized just how important it is to feed off of positive energy and as a personal mission I want to lead be the person to show others the positive side in every situation. I now have this scrap of paper with the most powerful words I have ever written hanging above my bed so I can wake up to that inspiration everyday.

Leadership Advancement Scholars at Connections

Leadership Advancement Scholars at Connections

Throughout this conference I had a lot of surprises come my way, luckily for me, I LOVE surprises! I learned so much about others, making relationships and connections, and a lot about my leadership style while reflecting. The staff did a wonderful job of sparking my interests and taking my leadership skills to the next level. Bo Parker (my favorite speaker) gave me a lot of thought provoking ideas and things that I could do in my every day life to reach my full potential.

~McKenna Mathis “Be the Silver Lining”

Introduction to Communication

COM 267

During my course load this semester I took ‘Introduction to Communication’ to help me obtain my leadership minor. Although this class was called COM 267 the class and myself knew it just as plain debate. We knew it as this since everything that we had learned in the course we could relate back to a form of debate or persuasion. In attempts to make a summary of this course this reflection consists of a brief description of what I have learned in the class and what surprised me about the knowledge gained.

413ByMVB-iL._SY344_BO1,204,203,200_This class expanded my knowledge not only from a “debate” standpoint, but also the way I look at situations in my life. These things include, but are not limited to, what argumentation and debate is, what a debate consists of, procedures of a debate, how to conduct my own debate, and how to spot fallacies during a debate or while analyzing a controversial piece of text. Within the first few weeks of class, I gained knowledge as to know that an argument consisted of a claim, reasons, and a conclusion, as well as how to recognize each of these parts by looking for indicator words. Not only did I learn that debates consisted of these key points, but also how debaters use unstated assumptions, inductive reasoning, and deductive reasoning to support a claim. Another key form of reasoning is evidence. Over the course of the semester, our class had been taught how to evaluate evidence based on reliability, expertise, examining the biases, how recent a piece was published, and how relevant that piece was to the claim. After mastering what a debate was and what it consisted of, the next thing I learned were the procedures of debate and how to begin constructing my own arguments. The most important part of this process was learning the stock issues. Both the Lincoln-Douglas and parliamentary debates use stock issues, which are significant pieces of a debate that the affirmative must ‘carry’ or ’prove’ to win. These pieces are known as the harms, inherency, solvency, and topicality. When preparing for my own debate on a given topic, I found how to construct my argument around just these stock issues. The last thing taught in this term, was how to spot the use of fallacies, which are arguments that seem to provide valuable reasoning but in fact do not.

The most surprising thing I learned in this class is that debate and argumentation is not what it seems to be at first glance. The only impression that I had of debate was what I saw on television where politicians were yelling at each other, making personal attacks and acting like fools in general. Now I have learned that there is a large difference between debating and fighting. I was also shocked to know that there are different processes of debate, such as Lincoln-Douglas Debates and Parliamentary Debates, and that each had a specific set of rules and procedures.

I believe that all of the information I learned this semester will not only help me greatly over the course of my college education, but in the future and beyond that as well. I know being familiar with the styles of arguments, evidence analysis, and the experience of spotting weak arguments will give me an upper hand in any composition or English class that I will encounter in the future. As for the course in general, I will be able to use all of these skills as a leader in my day-to-day life. Perhaps the most valuable skill learned was the confidence that I gained during the debates, which will serve me well in the years to come. I feel much more comfortable speaking in front of others and developing my own opinions of any given topic. On top of that I developed a closer relationship with my  Leadership Advancement Cohort since I teamed up with many of them and encouraged each other. Overall, this new knowledge will be very useful to me as a leader at Central Michigan University.

~McKenna Mathis